SOC Sundays : Raising Body Happy Girls


On Sundays I write for five minutes about whatever pops into my head and then hit publish. Please excuse any typos!

So we went on a date this afternoon to see Martha Marcy May Marlene (or whatever the heck it’s called) because nothing says romance like cult movies. One of the things that struck me was the real body of the lead actress Elizabeth Olsen. Sure she had a flat stomach, I mean she is like 22, but she also had an ass and thighs. In stark contrast to most Hollywood stars, she looked like a real person.

It gave me hope. Especially after a week where I read Cinderella Ate My Daughter and My Teenage Werewolf both of which had the authors worrying about their daughters’ body images. As a mother to two girls, who will be going through puberty at the same time with two very different body shapes, I already have a preoccupation with body image. My own doesn’t concern me as much any more (besides that pesky five turned into twenty extra pounds.) Instead I worry about what the girls will think about theirs.

I try not to mention my own body images in front of them. That’s a first step. But where else can I go from there?


  1. How was the movie? I can’t believe she’s one of *those* Olsens but looks human.

    Roo’s at exactly the age where body image is coming into play. (Remember when I was fretting about the sizes of the kitty dresses at F21? Suffice it to say I am glad I erred larger.) Her body looks like a teeny tiny version of mine. She has hips already, at 7. I remember the traumatic shopping trips where I ended up with husky jeans and I try not to be hard on her but it’s so easy to slip up and let my personal body problems manifest on her. Suck in that tummy, tights are supposed to be tight, etc. I think my resolution for the new year is to pre-order all her clothes online to keep her out of stores that run toward the cheaply-made and slutty.

  2. I worry about the same thing with our girls. We have twins, but they already have such different bodies. I so hope that I can instill in them good self esteem. I have struggled with my own weight my whole life, and I would never want that to rub off on them.

Speak Your Mind